Respect and compramise

Where to start.. hmmm yesterday was truely my worst day since my husband and daughter left.. the husband told me he was going to go have lunch with his sister and an old friend from high school, ands of course take our daughter. well i come to find out later on yesterday that his old friend was an ex girl friend. i got upset who on earth takes their daughter to meet an ex. when clearly you know that your wife is going to freak out cause yes the wife has issues concering his ex's. Well the husband tells me i have to deal with it cause he has friends that are his ex's especially where he grew up.. i shouldnt have to deal with it, its out of respect for me that he doesnt talk to his ex's. he doest see it that way, and he most likely thinks i over react..

and then to top it off the husbands family my in laws decide its ok to celebrate my daughters birthda early with cake since they wont beable to celebrate it with us.. well i said to my husband jokingly that well looks like i wont get her a cake. the husbands reply was: well you have to understand that its hard for my family to miss all her firsts, i was like umm your family has gotten to see her, meet her, play with her.. and some of my family hasnt even met her yet.. wtf im thinking. your family can always fly out here the have more money then we do to fly or drive there to pa..

Marrige is suppose to be about love and compramise.. well im tired of always giving and not getting anything in return.. MY SON AND I WILL ALWAYS COME SECOND, and his family will come first in his life. cause all i hear is they dont live here and they dont get to see her as much as they like.. blah blah blah.. we see his family once a year if not more, and my family we see my mom all the time but the other part of my family we have not seen together. iv seen them and spent time with them in nov. 2007 . an that was the last time.. and he has seen his family 3 times this year... like iv said before things need to change or im gonna be un happy and possibly divorced/single. im hurting emotionally right now and i am confused. i just want my daughter home..